Have you been contacted or visited by your late wife? Has she appeared in your dreams? Have you experienced the supernatural since her passing?
I was a skeptic, but like my guests, entrepreneur and author Brian Rossi and mental health professional Helen Keeling-Neal, it didn’t take any of us long to have these magical experiences and become convinced that our angels were still with us, helping to let us know everything was alright, to teach us, and guide us towards the right path.
Listen into our personal experiences and see if you too would be similarly convinced, and see how your own experiences align.
Tom 5:11 I was not a believer, I’m definitely the skeptic of the group…. However, a couple of things happened to me that kind of convinced me. There was one, which I know happens to a lot of widowers I know, where they wake up at the time of death.
And then for me, some other things happened that were pretty darn convincing. We had these ceramic hearts that we had collected from our travels. And one by one, these hearts were well attached to the wall. And before this, and ever since, there has never been a piece of artwork that has fallen off the wall. But one by one, maybe a month after her death to maybe two months after her death, each one of the hearts, three in all, fell off the wall and broke. In my mind this represented one heart for each of the remaining – myself and my two daughters. And they didn’t just kind of fall off and break a little bit. Each one fell off, and we’re just shattered. I mean, unrepairable into dozens of pieces, each on different days. Three different days. This was over the course of about a month. And it wasn’t as a result of a door closing where sometimes you can close a door hard, it’ll shake the wall and something will fall off. It had nothing to do with any of that. They just kind of randomly flew off and crashed to the ground.
Tom 9:35 Well, there was one other incident that was really scary, at about the time of her passing at night. One evening. The alarm system in the house because I rarely had it on at the time. But guys, it shrieked. I mean it’s screamed. It’s a sound that I didn’t even know how the alarm system even made that as it wasn’t a sound that was designed into the system. But it literally was the alarm system screaming at me, and I’ve recorded it. I won’t play it. Because it is still to this day gives me shivers and has me react and trigger because it is so frightfully scary. The sound that was coming out of the alarm system.
Helen 10:55 I think one of the most profoundly helpful experiences I had was from a friend who asked me, a few weeks after David had died, whether I would be interested to go and see a medium with her….. So I leaned over and I fixed the hair on his head, I fixed it into his style. So here we are. I’m with Elizabeth Palin, the medium and she says that he says to tell you, you fixed his hair. And I just sobbed and I sobbed with the gratitude for that connection, of gratitude, knowing that he was okay. It was just a really, really profound and beautiful moment for me. So that was one of the most significant
Brian 14:26 I went to a medium when Imelda passed away, because I wanted to make sure that whoever I was talking to was a Imelda. And because I wanted very specific answers to questions. And so my first question to Imelda was, “why”, “why now?”, “why’d you leave?”. And I think this goes back to the overarching topic of grief and the fact that when we come here, we are with a partner that we’re supposed to be with during this lifetime. And so Imelda reminded me that this was part of our journey in this lifetime. To start something, and then how you need to learn Brian how to live, without me being the spiritual crutch. And I get it, but it was a very rough thing to hear from someone else.
Tom 22:04 I love that part to Brian, because I think as men, we tend to focus on business a lot, and our professional careers. And a lot of times, we rely very much on our wives to fill in all the other blanks in our lives. And there’s a lot after that, right. And I was doing that same thing. And I think that God has shown me many times that I needed to be the one that was providing service to others, like she did, but I relied on her to do that. I relied on her to be the one serving the community, serving in school, serving breast cancer survivors. I was relying on that much as you did, Brian. It was a crutch, essentially. And I think that part of the messaging I got loud and clear from her over the time, okay, it took me longer than it took you, Brian, because I’m thick headed. But I eventually got it to where it’s like, Look, you need to not be so hyper-focused on business and start to give back a lot more to serve more, and take my place. Now I need to be doing that – a life of service. And I need to be setting that example of service for our girls (daughters).
Brian 27:04 You bring up a really good point. And I just want to make it be known. You said, “learning to connect to your intuition”. And I firmly believe that’s part of the byproduct of losing someone is the wake up call, “Hey, it’s time to start honing in on this craft”. And for everyone out there, it’s all going to be a different portion of an intuition.
Tom 28:38 You don’t have to be a seventh degree, to still get value and benefit from starting to connect with this other dimension, or this intuition, as you’re talking about Brian.
Tom 31:04 Yeah, for me, I’d literally Brian have to exhaust myself, and yoga is meant to do that, right? All of the yoga practice is set to get you to what Savasana, where you lay there, in peace and quiet. But everything in the practice works up to that point, to get you in a state where you can let your mind free of thoughts and issues,
Helen 31:32 To get here, when I work with my clients on mindfulness, or meditation, I tell them three minutes, just three minutes, sitting in quiet. And that’s it. And to not judge any thoughts or racing thoughts, because especially when you’ve had loss, that quiet brings feelings, and that’s painful, it’s difficult. But underneath those feelings, after they’ve been released, is a different kind of quiet. And it’s more of a peace. And that’s an important part of knowing. You don’t have to be 30 minutes sitting with no thoughts and feelings.
Brian The way I envision it, is, when you go through it, it’s more like a tornado, and you’re kind of going upward, it looks like the same scene over and over as you spiral around. But it’s not the same, because you’re not the same. It’s different, a different time. And it’s just to remind you that this is a similar time, and something probably needs to be rearranged or this is a different time. And you learn through that whole circumstance.
Brian 40:15 I’m a firm believer in dreams. I’m a firm believer that we get messages in our dreams. And there’s been many occasions not not from Imelda, but just in dreams in general, to get that intuitive hit or reconnect to your intuition through the dream state. So many times I can think of where good business ideas or guidance about people I should be hanging around with, or I shouldn’t be hanging around with and things like that.
Helen 44:12 They’re always around. And, just be okay with it. I mean, it’s cool. It’s cool. It’s the next best rendition then being here physically, but you know, it’s great to still be connected. Energetically and personally it’s like the second best thing that could happen in this situation.
Helen 44:44 The one thing: be open hearted and open minded … if you think you’re seeing it, you are. If you think you’re hearing it you are. And that’s all part of being open hearted and open minded
Brian 45:11 I would say it’s a good message in being open minded and just be, But also, it’s okay. if it does happen. You can ask for it. You can do so in a controlled way. It doesn’t have to be sprung upon you. You can have a prayer to your loved ones that have them nicely show to you, so you know that they’re around and they’re thinking about you. I like to see cardinals. Cardinals are well known, that when you see a cardinal usually I think of my loved ones, whoever I’m thinking about. So that could be a first down-payment is when you see a cardinal, think of your loved one, and that could be the way it kind of starts from there.
Tom 46:07 And my advice to everyone is, don’t be as skeptical as I was. You know those signs, believe them when they’re there. Try to quiet your mind so that you can connect to them.
So, guys, thank you so much, Brian. Thanks for joining us again and Helen as well. Great always to have you here.